Disclosing Your HIV Status
This man is a true advocate for HIV. He has been featured in People Magazine, and has worked with many HIV community groups to share awareness and self love. His story is incredible.
"You don’t have to live in fear, and you don’t have to live in shame. You should have a healthy sex life, and make lots of love. But, you should assume everyone is positive and you should take the steps you need to stay negative. That is possible. But to show that ugly side towards someone who is willing to be honest, and who is committed to telling their truth. At least own the fact that you are living in fear. You can’t say the phrase “I don’t sleep with guys who are positive,” when people hook up and you don’t ask, but because you don’t ask, you don’t know, then they must not be positive. I am walking, living proof that is not the case. My situation came from someone who was not brave enough to disclose their status, and I lived in a ‘well I don’t sleep with guys who are positive, and so if I don’t know then it must not be an issue’ type of world. That is ignorance. If everyone wants to fight for gay marriage, which I love, go for it. Of course we should have equality. But we better do something fixing and housekeeping in our own backyard, because our community can be hurtful towards each other. So if we want to have a conversation about love, I love love. Buts lets not sugar coat it like we are a community that has figured it out…that marriage equality has somehow fixed the internal issues. We have addiction, we have lack of self esteem, we have lack of self love. Those are the conversations when we are talking about love that feels more relevant than marriage. I want marriage, but I want my brothers and sisters, my transgendered, my LGBT to love themselves before they love someone else. Let’s advocate for that. That is worth fighting for. Because then, we are a community who has learned to self love, then our relationships, then less people are effected with HIV."