Jul 12 Jul 12 Identifying as Asexual Stories For Love Photojournalist Captured in a cafe in Boston, this woman shares her experience in discovering her identify as asexual. Most commonly, asexuals don’t experience sexual attraction. There are many different types of asexuals across the spectrum. I lived in Iowa and tried to come out to people as asexual, but felt a lot of stigma around coming out. I’ve become a lot more comfortable identifying as asexual since attending a meeting group in Boston. Being open had allowed me to come into relationships and explain my identity. People know that sex is not something that I am bringing into a relationship.