My mom didn’t talk to me for a month when she found out I identified as Transgender.

My mom didn’t talk to me for a month when she found out I identified as Transgender.

PACE University's Queer Society hosted a Queer Gala in New York City where this student shared his experience with coming out as transgender, as well as his experience with being a part of the queer community through The LGBTQA Center in NYC.

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I came out as bisexual in High School, and I identify as trans.

Coming out as trans was a little different that coming out as bisexual. When I was 18, I met my dad for the first time. Soon after we met, he asked me if I was transgender. He had a few coworkers who were transgender, and he said I carry myself in a very masculine way. I told him I identified as trans. My mom didn't know at the time, and I asked my dad not to tell her because she wasn't in a frame of mind where she can hear the news. Low and behold, they got into an argument and my father told my mother. 

My mom didn’t talk to me for a month when she found out I identified as Transgender.

I tried to small talk with her and she would ignore me. She would eat food in her room rather than the dinner table. My mom and I speak now, but she’s not okay with me being transgender.

My mom is from a different country, so it is harder for her to understand that I am transgender.

My mom and were are very close and our personalities mesh very well. I wish she would call me by my name rather than by birth name. I wish she would just talk to me.

I work for The LGBTQA Center and do graphic design.

I was looking for a queer community when I started Fall semester. I found just that in The Center. We’re now working to fight for inclusivity of all students.

Advice I have for other queer or trans people...

It is very easy to get down on yourself because people may not want you around. If you learn to feel comfortable in yourself, it will help you persevere through all of the heartache…both in your work and ambitions.

I wish my parents would ask me questions about my life.

I wish my parents would ask me questions about my life.